Monday, September 16, 2013
On being trendy
About a month ago, I attended a backyard dinner with a bunch of women from my church. As I sat down to dig into some salad, the girl sitting next to me remarked that I always looked "trendy" and showed up wearing clothes she saw online on different deal sites. While she didn't mean any harm by it, it was kind of a backhanded compliment: You buy stuff that everyone else is wearing.
Obviously, what she said stuck with me. I was wearing a really simple outfit at the time (a shirt, scarf and jean shorts) and didn't feel particularly trendy. But the last thing I wanted to do was seem like I was trying too hard.
I have always been someone who tries to look nice at all times. One of my biggest pet peeves is women who wear workout clothes or pajamas to the grocery store or — since my office is very casual — to work. I don't wear makeup, but I can control the clothes I wear and the way I present myself. My husband can tell you that I only wear pajamas and lounge-y clothes to bed, mainly because you never know who's going to knock on your door or whether you'll need to run to the store and get milk.
During the past year and a half, I felt very ugly and young-looking when I had to have braces on for a second time, and wearing unique jewelry and clothes helped me cope with that. At least someone will notice that I have cute shoes, I thought, and maybe they will be distracted from the braces on my teeth. It helped. I instantly had more confidence in myself when I knew that I looked nice at work, and I was able to lead meetings and feel more comfortable and authoritative.
However, the last thing I want to be is obsessed with clothes or buying things just to buy them. When I post pictures of my outfits on the blog, I genuinely love the clothes/shoes/jewelry I'm wearing. There are trendy clothes that you'll never see me wear — palazzo pants, lace-up heels, camo prints — because I don't like them or they don't work with my body type.
I am a firm believer in being yourself and looking the best that you can. There's nothing worse than hearing a woman put herself down because she feels ugly or seeing her wear ill-fitting clothes and be ignored (or ridiculed) because of the way she looks.
Have confidence in yourself, find clothes that work for your body, embrace the trends you like and abandon the ones you don't. I hope you find things that make you feel beautiful and happy inside and out — because everyone deserves to have confidence and feel important.