tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3338163690629804683.post612864006230400046..comments2023-11-05T01:25:42.015-07:00Comments on Love, Lindsay: The big questionLindsayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09130109003343527862noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3338163690629804683.post-51870970521991816412013-08-26T14:49:10.744-06:002013-08-26T14:49:10.744-06:00this is such a personal topic/question, i'm gl...this is such a personal topic/question, i'm glad you wrote about it! i'm sure people don't mean anything by asking/don't realize it's none of their business and as you've listed above, the question can be really stressful for so many reasons. my least favourite of all the comments/questions about having kids was the reminder that I was getting old! that really bothered me for some reason.<br /><br />i hope everything works out for you guys, no matter what you decide :)Emmett Katherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11433981956961537502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3338163690629804683.post-61460597953204411632013-08-21T10:11:06.917-06:002013-08-21T10:11:06.917-06:00Jared and I waited almost 4 years...luckily we did...Jared and I waited almost 4 years...luckily we didn't get asked to much about it because we both have LOTS of grandkids on both sides of the family - so there was no pressure (and that's part of the reason we waited so long - as I'm sure you can imagine) So I hope people don't pressure you too much, adding a child is definitely one of the best joys you can have, but there is no reason to be pressured by it! Besides...you can borrow Mya and Preston anytime. :) Mya is so excited for you guys to visit!Becka & Jaredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08224109985878966282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3338163690629804683.post-33021952010558665472013-08-21T06:02:00.190-06:002013-08-21T06:02:00.190-06:00I love the way you shared your thoughts, Lindsay. ...I love the way you shared your thoughts, Lindsay. I have been having similar thoughts lately as you know and as with any big question/decision in life patience, hope and belief are the factors we all hold on to. <br /><br />The time will come and surprise you awesomely. I wish you all the best, for who you are and how beautiful soul you have. xxxxtoday my wayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13595335624378637770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3338163690629804683.post-6593736043405125112013-08-20T14:20:07.680-06:002013-08-20T14:20:07.680-06:00Thanks for this post. I completely agree! We never...Thanks for this post. I completely agree! We never subscribed to the "things will all work out" mentality when it came to having children before we were ready--emotionally, financially, etc. Too many couples think it "works out" because they use other family members for money and baby care. We wanted to wait until we were able to care for a child on our own. Throw some fertility problems into the mix, and five years later we finally have our little guy. I think our ward thought we were infertile, so it must have seemed like a miracle when we were expecting. :) Everyone has their own timing for what works best for them. We were expecting our timing to start a little earlier, but we are happy with where we are and where our journey has taken us.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816646515940723427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3338163690629804683.post-6049228338462288282013-08-20T13:36:04.442-06:002013-08-20T13:36:04.442-06:00Thanks, Connie. We are hopeful that things will wo...Thanks, Connie. We are hopeful that things will work out -- but I think adoption is a wonderful thing, too.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09130109003343527862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3338163690629804683.post-71626938162796469642013-08-20T01:43:37.608-06:002013-08-20T01:43:37.608-06:00great post! following you now! I hope to see you i...great post! following you now! I hope to see you in my blog sometimes. thanks!<br />Kisses from VV!!<br />www.voguelyvan.comVanessa Mercadohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08225717511909461395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3338163690629804683.post-29530391481009189862013-08-19T19:10:02.754-06:002013-08-19T19:10:02.754-06:00Sadly, most people don't learn to be tactful u...Sadly, most people don't learn to be tactful until the lesson hits close to home. Lucky for you, you get to educate them. <br /><br />Good luck however you decide to bring children into your home. My niece was lucky enough to adopt after 7 years of marriage. They are loving every minute of it.thorkgalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02968837509464625661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3338163690629804683.post-4674634655132984672013-08-19T18:51:43.163-06:002013-08-19T18:51:43.163-06:00This is such a great post. You are amazing! Every...This is such a great post. You are amazing! Everyone has a different life to live - different challenges, timing and decisions. I think that people need reminding that every family is different and made up of different amounts of people, but all are considered a family and loved by our Heavenly Father. Breannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06525392905895538357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3338163690629804683.post-958384293749985032013-08-19T16:18:42.130-06:002013-08-19T16:18:42.130-06:00I think you handled this topic in a very positive ...I think you handled this topic in a very positive way. I would only add that many times people are asking out of genuine love and personal interest and not just a desire to pry. We tried for a year before we got pregnant with our first child, and sometimes I really wanted to talk about all the hurt and anger and sadness I was feeling, but I didn't want to bring up the subject myself. So I actually welcomed it when someone I loved would ask me what our plans were for our family. Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04202774097017774432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3338163690629804683.post-81961881397812803092013-08-19T12:50:42.405-06:002013-08-19T12:50:42.405-06:00It doesn't matter what religion you are, that ...It doesn't matter what religion you are, that question is inappropriate. <br /><br />"You can't have an only child!" and "Are you done having kids?" Also none of anyone's business. <br /><br />I had my one and only son at age 34.<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3338163690629804683.post-87854665952581786592013-08-19T11:12:41.346-06:002013-08-19T11:12:41.346-06:00my cousins are Mormons, and i have plenty of frien...my cousins are Mormons, and i have plenty of friends who are too, and they said they felt such pressure to have kids right away and to have a lot. i've noticed that too, but again, i'm only basing this on what i've observed and am not saying all feel that way.<br />as an unmarried, childless 36 year old, i am constantly pressured by everyone to have kids. it makes me feel like all of my other life accomplishments are null and void because i'm not popping out the kids. i can't stand that!! i love kids (i'm a nanny) and if it's meant to happen, it will.Elle Seeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01700861489513811406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3338163690629804683.post-35340480160783772812013-08-19T09:22:14.943-06:002013-08-19T09:22:14.943-06:00I agree a thousand percent. For us, the questions ...I agree a thousand percent. For us, the questions dropped off after about the 5 year mark, thank goodness. Not sure if that's because everyone assumes we're hopelessly infertile, or if it's because I've learned to put off a "DO NOT ASK ME THAT QUESTION" vibe. I read that post a few days ago and really loved it, especially his suggestion that asking when a couple is going to have kids is more personal than asking about their finances. <br /><br />I taught modesty to my Laurels yesterday (I might blog my notes, still deciding) and I wanted to let you know that I used your "modest amount of mustard" story. The girls LOVED it, and it was the perfect, funny demonstration of how far we've come from the real definition of modesty, so thanks for sharing it!Jessiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00360537893074922528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3338163690629804683.post-59841186287339164602013-08-19T08:20:42.107-06:002013-08-19T08:20:42.107-06:00best of luck with everything! you are brave and in...best of luck with everything! you are brave and inspirational - God's timing is the perfect timing :)Vett Vandiverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16511225362390677060noreply@blogger.com